No problem with saying "No"

Hi everyone! Today in class we discussed (in my opinion) about a really valuable topic: how to say no (in an assertive way).

It is an important topic to talk about but, for me, it is even more because generally it is really difficult for me to say no. When somebody asks me to do something, even though I have more things to do, I usually do it (and I also try to do my best in it; loosing a lot of time...) because if he asks me, it might be because he needs me, and I believe it is really important to help people, so I feel guilty when I don't do so. But what I realized today is that my wants and rights are also important, and if I know how to say no, the other person will understand my reasons and therefore he won't care about it. In addition, if I keep doing everything I'm asked to, it will come a day when I will probably explode because I won't be able to do anything. What is important is to achieve a win-win solution! (Not a "you win, I lose" solution).

But there are a few times when I actually say no, but when I do it it's usually because I really feel unrespected and I can't stand it. The problem is that when this happens I'm quite aggressive, so it's also important to know how to change this way of saying no into an assertive way.

So, sometimes we need to say no, and there is no problem with that, but what we have to know is how to say it. If we learn how to do it in an assertive way, we will actually success in many areas of our lives.

Thanks for reading!