Being assertive

Well, today I'm going to talk about assertiveness, (in my opinion) a quite difficult-to-achieve skill which is essential for good leadership.

Assertiveness is based on balance: it requires being direct about your wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others. So the problem with this is that there is a really fragile line between assertiveness and aggressiveness (which is doing what is in your own best interest without thinking in the others' rights, needs or feelings). It's really common ending up being a bit aggressive, just because it might be easier than being assertive; but there is also another fragile line between being assertive and being passive. This is what actually happens to me, and when you are passive, you normally don't get what you want just because you think too much in the other people's needs or feelings. So this is something I must change if I want to get to be someone someday. 

Assertiveness helps to build self-confidence and provides many other benefits for improving relationships at work and in other areas of life. When you are assertive, you act fairly and with empathy, so the power you use comes from your self-confidence, not from intimidation. This way, people will see you as a leader and someone they want to work with.

I hope you find my blog interesting and useful. Thanks for reading!